Holding On Letting Go is a Kent-based charity that helps children to cope with the death of someone close to them.
Often the children we see have lost their mum, dad, grandparents, a sibling or a friend. Sometimes more than one person in their family has died or there are sudden and traumatic circumstances surrounding the death, such as suicide, a road accident or murder.
Since the adults around them are also grieving, these children often feel unable to express their feelings or talk about their loved one or their sadness.
Many adults don’t know how to support children through the grieving process, so we give support and guidance to parents and carers too.
Made me feel a bit happier – flicking through my memory box brings back the happy memories. It was fun making things – they really listened to you.
Billy (age 9)
I had a good time there and being there helped me a lot. I learnt a lot and being there helped me remember my Nan for the woman she was and the memories we made together.
Demi (age 16)
Bereavement support weekend
Support is offered to children, young people, parents and carers at our bereavement support weekends which are held throughout the year. Our non-residential weekends are free to children and their families and are staffed by our trained volunteers.
Children are encouraged to share their feelings in a safe, nurturing place. They can ask questions and learn strategies to help them deal with difficult emotions such as grief, fear, anger and sadness.
Our weekend activities are full of creative and musical activities which are designed to help the children to hold on to those precious memories of their loved one, whilst learning to let go of the sadness.
At the end of a bereavement weekend, each child goes away with a memory box full of things that they have made that help them to remember their special person.
In addition, children get to meet other children and young people who have experienced a bereavement, be listened to by people who understand and find new ways to cope and have fun!
Parent & Carer Group
We invite bereaved parents and carers to attend the parent and carers group. Managing your own feelings as well as your children’s grief can be overwhelming. This group is a safe place where parents and carers can find support, understand their feelings and explore ways of helping bereaved children and young people as well as managing their own experience of grief.
This group is held which is held on the same weekend of the children’s bereavement weekend but in a different building.
These sessions support the parent/carer to:
- Tell their story or just be in the group and listen
- Meet other bereaved parents and carers
- Understand the child’s or young person’s grief
- Share different ways of coping with bereavement in the family
- Encourage communication with in the family
- Access services and resources to support individual needs