Supporting bereaved children & their families in Kent

Holding On Letting Go

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Refer a Child

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Referral process

We accept referrals from health and social care agencies and schools. You are also welcome to refer yourself if you are a child or young person.

Referral form

referral-pdf↓ download referral form

You can either email it to the office at or print out a copy and post it to:


Referring someone

If you are referring as a concerned professional, please discuss the referral with the child, young person, their parents/carers, and obtain their consent.

Referring yourself

If you are a child or young person, you can refer yourself and we will respond as quickly as we are able.

Once we have received the referral form you will receive an acknowledgement of the referral. You will be sent another form to complete which provides important information to enable us to support you in the best way possible.

Assessment visit

When the form is completed, you will be contacted by telephone for a further discussion or to arrange an assessment visit. This is an opportunity to meet with the child, young person and parents and carers to discuss what the programme has to offer you as a family. It is a really important time for you to provide more information about your concerns and how the bereavement has affected the family. This visit can take about one hour.

The assessment may highlight that another service is more appropriate to the needs of the child, young person and family and an alternative referral for support may be advised.

If you would like to discuss any aspect of the assessment further please call us on 03445 611 511.

Personal stories

Samuel’s story

Published by Jane Cornwall, 2 Feb 2017

by Jane Cornwell The sudden and unexpected death of my father left us as a family in a state of shock and devastation. He had been in hospital for 2 weeks and the day of his death it had been agreed that he could come home for a few hours, with the view of coming home […]

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Julien and his 3 children

My Story by Julien Lawton

Published by Caroline, 12 Dec 2016

My story is quite a simple story. My life was as normal as most, I was happily married to Sara, we had two children, Harrison 5 and Amelia 4 and had just been blessed with our third, Gracie. It was whilst breastfeeding Gracie that Sara discovered a lump and was feeling lethargic. After much to-ing […]

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Meet Matt, one of our wonderful volunteers

Published by Caroline, 18 Nov 2016

Holding On Letting Go would like you to meet Matt, one of our wonderful volunteers who works alongside a child at our support weekends. We are always happy to welcome new helpers, if you would like to find out more about volunteering opportunities and how you can get involved please call or email us. Here […]

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